Do you ever have negative self-talk? Do you ever fail to follow-through on a promise you’ve made to yourself? Of course, we have all been there. The real question is what the heck can we do about it? It isn’t like you can go to the gym for an hour a day and magically retrain your mind, can you? Gary John Bishop makes the argument that you can train your mind in his book Unfu*k yourself. I don’t like the title of the book but I do love the book! It is an easy read, and I would add a quick except with the amount of notes I ended up taking it wasn’t. On that note I have included some key takeaways below. 1) You are not your thoughts you are your actions, and you have the power to change your thoughts through your actions. Meaning what happens when you act in a way that is counter to your thoughts is you force your mind to think differently, to match with the new reality it is observing. What separates the good from the great in our society is that they have trained themselves to take consistent action in a way that moves them closer to their goals regardless of whatever negative thought crosses their mind. 2) Words have power. Just like how your actions have power over your mind so do the words you speak. Example there is a massive difference in saying ‘I will wire my brain to think like a winner’ vs saying ‘I am wired to win’. When we tell ourselves something definitive as though we have already achieved it our minds go to work on making that thought a reality. 3) There is a powerful exercise in the book that has you picture yourself on a hospital bed with only a short time to live. Then he asks you to recall all the times you failed to follow through on a promise you made to yourself. Can you feel the regret? (I know I could). Next ask yourself what would you give to return to a place where there was still time to take action. This leads into the two most important questions in the book … what do you need to start doing and what do you need to stop doing? For a short book it is a powerful read that helps you to think and act in a way that will have a positive impact on your life and I highly recommend it.